The Help - How to become a problem solver

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The Key to resilience:

Two main characteristics that resilient people display in abundance both in reaction to disappointments and big traumas are emotional control and openness to new experiences:

1. Emotional control:

-The ability to stay calm is one of the most important factors in the immediate aftermath of an emergency situation.

-Managing emotion also helps us to build healthy relationships. It is importante to express what you feel in words but resist acting out on your feelings. If you say what is not okay and what you would like instead, people will respect you more and you will get better results.

2. Openness to new experiences

- It means being able to rebuild when something has gone wrong, to look for solutions and options - focus on positive results and using adversity to learn and grow.
You can strengthen your resilience by doing something that takes you outside of your comfort zone.

How to become a Problem Solver:

1) List two niggling problems that you would like to tackle (anything- you don´t need a perfect solution just ideas)

2) Now write down under each problem, three realistic steps you could take that would help you move forward on the issue- daily or weekly.

Take control of your thoughts

• Expect good things to happen 
• Visualise what you want
• When setbacks happen be forgiving - use humour, courage and optimism.

Connect with others:

• Listen to others and support them when they need you
• Accept help from those who care about you
• Take responsibility
• Manage your emotions

Stephen Covey's 7 habits of Highly Effective People:

1) The principle of continuous learning - Keep reading, learning and gaining knowledge - it gives you power in work and relationships. Never stop learning.

2) The principle of Service - Giving yourself to others, helping others achieve their goals - in their processes. 

3) The principle of staying positive and optimistic - Radiate positive energy. Avoid the three emotional cancers: Criticising, Complaining, Comparing and Competing (with others instead of your-self)

4) The principle of affirmation of others - Treat people as though they are pro-active with great potential. (Treat people as if they were what they should be, and you help them become what they are capable of becoming - Goethe)

5) The principle of Balance - Identify your different roles in life. Focus on all areas, don´t neglect one: Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual. 

6) The principle of Spontaneity and Serendipity - The ability to experience life with a sense of adventure, excitement and fresh discover- find the humour and lightness in all things.

7) The principle of Consistent self-renewal and self-improvement in the 4 dimensions of ones life - Physical, Spiritual, mental and social/emotional - Invest in yourself!

•  Now  list 5 principles that affect your life on a daily basis. In what ways are you affected? Do they impact you in positive or negative ways?

-Be proactive - (Take initiative and responsibility for your choices. Make choices based on principles and values rather than moods or conditions, be an gent of change). Remember, life does not just happen - it is carefully designed by you or carelessly designed by you.
Every moment, every situation provides a new choice, if something doesn´t work do it differently! Know yourself and be responsible for your life.